When you block people on facebook/twitter/etc. - stop and think why. Why? What are you so afraid of them finding out? That you've been a badge bunny since forever? That all you ever wanted was a cop? Congratulations! You got one! What a stellar example of a man you've gotten yourself there, huh? Such a role model for his kids. Oh, wait? They don't want to have much to do with him either? Not a shock there. And he gets along so well with his coworkers, too...
Secrets have a way of creeping up on you, and when you least expect it - BAM! smacking you right in the face.
I've always been an honest person. Sometimes too honest. And I've always told people that the only person you should really lie to is your mother, because mothers really don't need to know everything. (Don't tell the boy this though, ok? lol)
I've never lied to my child as to who his father is. He knows his name. I have maybe omitted some pertinent information because he's not old enough to handle it - but the older he gets the more he is told. Like now he knows he has 2 half-brothers and 2 half-sisters. He also knows their names. I see no reason to lie about this. They're related. I have owned up to my responsibilities and I am raising my child on my own. His father, because he is pissed off at me (I know, right - after all these years? Get over it - and yourself) refuses to have anything to do with the boy. He plays father of the year to the other 4. Three found out a few years ago that they have another sister and have welcomed her into the family. But they, on the other hand, know nothing about my son. Two are in their 20's - one is even getting married this year. They're more than old enough to know.
If there were a secret like this in your family - would you want to know ? Or would you rather find out from a curious 14-15 year old kid that friends you on Facebook? Or a picture from someone's blog?
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Also: look how cute the boy is with that baby face!!
Hope you are well. xoxoxo
I wish he still had that baby fat! :) Things are good. Same to you. xoxo
I found out about a half sister very late in life under different circumstances. Still, it would have been nice if the adults had been able to work things out and we could have been in each others' lives earlier.
BTW ; -) We picked out the same new template. Hey there template sibling!
Pseudo - you have GREAT taste in backgrounds, sistah! :)
I am making an effort to do the right thing, and they are so twisted up in their web of lies it's ridiculous. So the kids will find out, just not the way that they should unfortunately. And they (the other adults) will only have themselves to blame, but they are oh so good at pointing fingers.
Do you think with today's technology that you would have found out about her sooner?
Sad for the children involved in cases like these, but one can only be a responsible adult and do the best they can.
If I had an unknown half sister/brother, I'd want to find out about it from my parent(s) if I'm a child, but as an adult... anyway would be fine with me!
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