21 Days...

it's only been 6 years, 5 moves (7 if you count the big one to Michigan), one ex-boyfriend, 20 lbs. give or take, 2 different jobs and a WHOLE lot of student loans to pay back, like a nice Range Rover's worth... ouch. 

Travel Tip Thursday :)

I've been so lucky to have been able to travel to some great and wonderful places.  One of my favorites so far has been Alaska - such an untouched wilderness.  Enjoy :)  And check out Pseudo for more travel tips! 

Secrets....

I thought this was another one worthy of reposting..  Again, another one for you JB :)

When you block people on facebook/twitter/etc. - stop and think why.  Why?  What are you so afraid of them finding out?  That you've been a badge bunny since forever?  That all you ever wanted was a cop?  Congratulations!  You got one!  What a stellar example of a man you've gotten yourself there, huh?  Such a role model for his kids.   Oh, wait?  They don't want to have much to do with him either?  Not a shock there.   And he gets along so well with his coworkers, too... 



Secrets have a way of creeping up on you, and when you least expect it - BAM!  smacking you right in the face.

I've always been an honest person.  Sometimes too honest.  And I've always told people that the only person you should really lie to is your mother, because mothers really don't need to know everything.  (Don't tell the boy this though, ok? lol)

I've never lied to my child as to who his father is.  He knows his name.  I have maybe omitted some pertinent information because he's not old enough to handle it - but the older he gets the more he is told.  Like now he knows he has 2 half-brothers and 2 half-sisters.  He also knows their names.  I see no reason to lie about this.  They're related.  I have owned up to my responsibilities and I am raising my child on my own.  His father, because he is pissed off at me (I know, right - after all these years?  Get over it - and yourself) refuses to have anything to do with the boy.  He plays father of the year to the other 4.   Three found out a few years ago that they have another sister and have welcomed her into the family.  But they, on the other hand, know nothing about my son.  Two are in their 20's - one is even getting married this year.  They're more than old enough to know. 

If there were a secret like this in your family - would you want to know ?  Or would you rather find out from a curious 14-15 year old kid that friends you on Facebook?  Or a picture from someone's blog?

It's not the boy's place (or really, mine) to tell them that their father is an asshole.  It really should be on him, shouldn't it?  It's not my secret...

Shit defendants say......

OOOH Honey, what you done - you look different.  Did you get youngified overnight?

Me:  why, yes, yes, I did!
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Me: Your payment isn't due until February.
Def:  February?
Me:  yes, February.
Def:  Next month?
Me:  Well, considering that this is January, next month would be February, yes.
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Def:  He told me to come here and do, um, something.
Me:  he who?
Def:  Um, you know.  The, um, guy.  Told me to come here and do something.
Me:  Did you just come from court?
Def: yes
Me:  Did you talk to a Judge?
Def:  yes.
Me:  What did the Judge tell you to do?
Def:  set up a payment plan.
Me:  Oh.  Well that helps.  Here fill this out....
Def. comes back after 10 min, form only half filled out.  "here".
Me:  No - you need to fill it out completely, including how much you can pay per month.
Def:  Well the Judge told me I could do community service.
Me:  Oh, really?  Gee that would have been helpful to know - here now fill out THIS form instead...

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Best one yet?

"Why you got to be locking a Shameka up?"


You can't make this shit up...

New Year, new post...

Happy New Year! 
So I've decided either to get my hand on my ass and start blogging again, or delete it.  We'll see how things go over the next couple of weeks and I'll decide then.   I have no classes going on at the moment, but lots of projects that need to get done, and maybe I'll be able to juggle them all.  Life has been hectic at times, very slow at others. 

I'm trying to teach the boy about thinking about others - which is more of a challenge than I expected.  He's so self-centered sometimes, and has absolutely no regard of his actions affecting others.  Reminds me of someone that I spent a couple of years with that apparently rubbed off more than I thought.   Also trying to get him to understand the value of money, and things like when he cooks a whole bagel but only eats half (throwing out the other half) that's wasting money.  My money.  That I work hard for. 

Which brings me to work.  I should start a blog called "Shit defendants say"..  I have been amazed sometimes at what comes out of people's mouths.  And how they smell.  Do people not realize that they smell like an onion pizza (or worse) after not showering for weeks on end?  And really?  Don't call your son's father your "baby-daddy".  It only makes you look dumb.   Same for your son's mother.  "Baby mama" =  Dumb.

I'll save more of that for later.

Happy New Year!

New favorite song? NSFW or kids

This is beyond fabulous!!  Love it!
I know - I've been MIA lately.  School, work, kid - been busy.  :)

Random Sunday...

Just some random Sunday thoughts...


I love having the windows open during the summer.  I'd sleep with a fan on me every night if I could - the white noise and blowing air = a great night's sleep.  Usually.  I live in a house with central air.  It's much cooler than a fan.  And when it's humid, like it has been for the past 2 weeks?  A  Godsend.  My son, on the other hand, would live his life in AC.  Where he came from, I don't know.  lol

I had a dream the other night that I was in the hospital for something (not sure - not important to the story) and when I came out of the anesthesia, he told me that #1 he had a girlfriend and #2 she'd just given birth to their baby.  WHAAAAAAAAAAA????????  He's 13.  He hasn't hit puberty yet.  I told him about my dream, and that kids his age were having sex and that if he had any questions about it all, he could ask me.  His response?  "Well this isn't awkward at all!".  Hey - at least I put it out there. 

I decided to give match.com a try.  For the 3 days free.  So I have to remember to cancel it tomorrow or I get charged for 3 months (or 6, I'm not sure which one I clicked).  A lot of people have viewed my profile.  One even contacted me about coffee.  Which wouldn't be bad.  But I viewed his profile, and while he is blind, that's no excuse for having a professional picture taken of yourself wearing the American flag in not only your shirt and shorts, but the cowboy hat to match.  I politely declined.  Which could be one of two things.  Either a sign that I've not yet reached that point of desperation yet, or that I'm too picky.  I'm thinking that it's the former, not the latter. 

I drop the boy off for a week at camp in about an hour.  While I will miss him, the house will be a lot cleaner when he comes home, and I will have had a week of peace.  Both he and my "other" kid will be gone all week.  We're hosting a player for the local minor-league baseball team and they're on a road trip until the 19th.    I'm determined NOT to go food shopping while they're gone.  LOL

Happy Sunday!  I'm off to read my latest book "Eat, Pray, Love" I've been wanting to read it ever since my friend Erin talked about it.  Maybe it'll give me some insight into the meaning of life.  You never know!

Kathy :)

Happy 4th of July!

Ooooh - new stuff with the blogs, now I can *see* the picture before posting the blog.  Love it!
Hope everyone has a happy and safe 4th.  A great quote I found - You have to love a nation that celebrates its independence every July 4, not with a parade of guns, tanks, and soldiers who file by the White House in a show of strength and muscle, but with family picnics where kids throw Frisbees, the potato salad gets iffy, and the flies die from happiness. You may think you have overeaten, but it is patriotism. ~Erma Bombeck

On tap for today?  Sangria - the white one.  Only I couldn't find frozen peaches so I threw in frozen mangos and a couple of fresh peaches cut up.  And 2 bottles of wine.  The container had extra room, what can I say?  LOL  Will get back on how it tastes.   A cookout with some friends.  Maybe some baseball.  More baseball.  We are hosting a local minor-league team's player.  He's awesome - and the boy is loving having a "big brother" around for the summer.   I think tomorrow I will have a cookout.  Invite some friends.  Drink more Sangria.  Ahhhhhhhhhhh, summer.  Gotta love it!

K

Mmmmmmmm

What a delightfully tasty weekend!
Yesterday I had to bake a banana cake with cream cheese frosting AND a chocolate cake that looked and smelled to die for. The banana one was specifically requested by the 16 year old birthday girl - and I know that one is really good. The chocolate was a new recipe that I tried out. I made it all pretty, too. And so ends the "a cake a month for a year" that was auctioned off at last year's relay. Thank GOD! LOL


Last weekend, I made Sangria for a graduation party. The guys were drinking it, it was so tasty. Last night we had a "Sangria Saturday" on my friend Kim's deck. Who, by the way - now has hair again. It's gray and really short - but it's hair! She said she actually had to shave her legs, too! Woot!

The Sangria? Deeeeeeeeelightful. Of course I'll share. Silly. LOL

Peachy White Wine Sangria:

* 1 big ass bottle dry white wine
* 3/4 cup peach flavored schnapps
* 1 can frozen lemonade concentrate, thawed
* 1/4 cup white sugar
* 1 package frozen peaches
* 1 cup seedless red grapes, halved
* 1 cup seedless green grapes, halved

Put together and let it sit at least overnight. We added ginger ale to cut it because it was strong. And for those that don't like peaches? I can't stand peaches and absolutely loved this.

Red Wine Sangria

1 large bottle of red wine (I got the extra large one) - and it doesn't have to be expensive wine, get something middle of the road
1 2 liter bottle of ginger ale
2 limes
2 lemons
1 orange
1 can frozen lemonade
1 big can of pineapple chunks in juice

pour the wine into a container (I bought a 2 gallon cooler with a spout just for this stuff). Add 2 tablespoons of sugar. Add 1/2 cup of orange juice if you have it. Cut the limes, lemons and oranges - squeeze the juice into the wine and then toss in what's left of them so the rest can seep out. Put in the pineapples. I put a couple of shots of raspberry vodka in also. Let it all sit overnight (at the very least).

When you're ready to serve it - add the can of frozen lemonade, a 2 liter bottle of ginger ale and I also threw in a package of frozen raspberries.

Drink up and enjoy! The girl that brought the red last night made ice cubes with raspberries in them - they were awesome in both the red and white. No clogging of the spout - still get the flavor!

The only issue with the closed containers is that nobody can see the fruit or add it to their drinks. Which some may consider an issue - but if you're the owner of said container - you get to EAT the fruit. LOL




Hope all is well with everyone - new class starts tomorrow (Environmental studies or something like that). I'm off to read, catch up some, and enjoy the morning. :)

K

The last you ever hear.....

Yup. This could be it. My last post ever on the Fuckwit. Hee heee hee - on his wedding day, no less. Because it's come around, as it should have.

Apparently the fuckwit presented the fiancee with a prenup - a little over a week ago. It was the same prenup that his brother had HIS wife sign, so what could possibly be the problem? It left her with nothing. N O T H I N G. Not after 1, 5, 10, 20 or even 50 years. And if he died - she got nothing. She refused to sign it, he refused to budge. She refused to budge. And then told him to screw and moved back to California. Of course he's telling people that he broke it off - but that's not what really happened from what I understand. Another twisted reality to make himself look the victim when he's really not.

She saw the *TRUE* Fuckwit - and his siblings, and what they are all about. Thank goodness for her! I just hope if the whole virgin thing was true that she didn't give it up for him before the wedding.

I'm sorry, but REALLY??? NOTHING? I wouldn't have signed it either. And while that may initially look like it's about the money, it's really not. She gave up her life in California, her family and friends - moved to Michigan - and granted, they wouldn't last for more than a year or two - but she didn't know that. She was expecting to spend the rest of her life with this person. So imagine 30 years down the road something happens to him. They've got 3-4 kids. What is she left with to show of 30 years of marriage? Nothing. Not the house she'd lived in, the job was long gone because he needs full time care (as do those kids!) - that's not worth anything? Really? Even if it was 2-3 years. That's worth nothing? I would think that her virginity at least would be worth something.

So anyway - he showed his selfish, disgusting fuckwit self. His siblings showed that they are all about the money and keeping it close. It's only money. It's unfortunate that to them, it's more important than real relationships with people that don't give a shit about the money. But when it comes down to it - that is what it's all about - to them. Live your lonely lives and wonder why you are all so socially retarded and don't have any *real* friends other than the ones who live in the same bubble you're in and the Fuckwit will continue with ones like, oh... I don't know - the FFW? She's a great example. LOL

Karma. Gotta love it. I know I do!